Santri EN – A renowned scholar and preacher in Indonesia shares tips for building a harmonious marriage by KH Husein Ilyas filled with love. He not only imparts religious knowledge but also provides practical tips that can be applied in everyday life.
The Key: Love and Compassion
One of the main keys to a harmonious marriage is a strong sense of love and compassion between husband and wife. KH Husein Ilyas encourages reciting the following prayer every day:
أَللّهُمَّ اجْعَلْنِي مَحْبُوْباً عِنْدَ زَوْجِيْ بِرَحْمَتِكَ يَاأَرْحَمَ الرَّاحِمِيْنَ
Meaning: “O Allah, make me loved by my husband, with Your mercy, O Most Merciful of the Merciful.”
This prayer can be recited by both husband and wife, replacing the word “zaujii” (my husband) with “zaujati” (my wife). This prayer can be recited after obligatory prayers or at auspicious times, such as one-third of the night, during rain, or when breaking the fast.
Effort and Good Deeds
However, KH Husein Ilyas also reminds us that prayer alone is not enough. Married couples should also strive to:
- Maintain communication: Be open with each other and talk about everything properly.
- Respect each other: Appreciate your partner’s opinions and feelings.
- Do good to each other: Do small things that show love and care.
KH Husein Ilyas emphasizes that prayer without accompanying effort and good deeds will not yield maximum results.
“Don’t just pray, but also make an effort. Don’t just hope, but also act. Don’t just say, but also prove it. Don’t just love, but also cherish. Don’t just get married, but also love. Don’t just be together, but also be harmonious,” he said.
Figure of KH Husein Ilyas
KH Husein Ilyas is a scholar and Islamic religious figure from Mojokerto, East Java, Indonesia. He is known as an active figure in preaching and developing Islamic education in Indonesia.
He is also the founder of Majelis Lirboyo, one of the largest Islamic boarding schools in Indonesia, located in Kedungjati District, Mojokerto Regency.
Additional Tips
In addition to the prayers and tips from KH Husein Ilyas, there are other things that can be done to build a harmonious and loving marriage, such as:
- Spend time together: Set aside quality time with your partner, whether to chat, pursue shared hobbies, or take vacations.
- Show attention: Show your partner that you care and are attentive to them. This can be done in simple ways, such as giving hugs, saying words of love, or helping them with household chores.
- Forgive each other: Everyone makes mistakes. The key is to forgive each other and not hold grudges.
- Be patient: Building a harmonious marriage takes time and patience. Don’t give up easily when facing problems.
By applying these tips, you and your partner can hopefully build a harmonious, loving, and Allah SWT-blessed marriage.
Message from KH Husein Ilyas
KH Husein Ilyas reminds us that building a harmonious and loving marriage is a shared responsibility between husband and wife.
“A harmonious marriage doesn’t come by itself. It takes effort and commitment from both sides,” he said.
Impact of KH Husein Ilyas’ Prayers and Tips
Many couples have experienced the benefits of KH Husein Ilyas’ prayers and tips. They claim that their relationships have become more harmonious, loving, and trusting.
“Since I’ve been regularly reciting this prayer and following KH Husein Ilyas’ tips, my relationship with my husband has improved. We communicate more often, respect each other, and help each other,” said one wife who followed KH Husein Ilyas’ tips.
Application in Various Circles
KH Husein Ilyas’ prayers and tips are not only beneficial for young married couples but also for couples who have been married for a long time.
“I’ve been married for 20 years, and I just learned about these tips a while ago. It turns out, these tips are very helpful for me to maintain the harmony of my marriage,” said a husband who has been married for a long time.
By following the tips and messages from KH Husein Ilyas, you and your partner can hopefully build a happy and lasting marriage.***
