SANTRI EN – Love is a human nature. Sincere love is the main foundation in building a happy and sustainable household life. However, love is not enough this the secret of everlasting Love. It takes effort and commitment from both partners to keep love everlasting and able to go through various trials in married life.
The Quran as a guide to life provides valuable guidance in building a household full of love and blessings. Here are some secrets of everlasting love based on the perspective of the Quran:
1. Cultivating Love and Affection
QS. Ar-Rum verse 21 explains that Allah created men and women to love and care for each other. This love and affection need to be continuously cultivated and nurtured in married life.
Here are some ways to cultivate love and affection:
- Respect and appreciate each other
- Provide quality time together
- Give attention and affection
- Communicate well and openly
- Forgive and let go of each other
2. Building a Shared Vision and Mission
A successful household is a household that has a clear purpose and direction. This shared vision and mission become the foundation for couples to cooperate and work together in achieving their life goals.
Here are some tips for building a shared vision and mission:
- Discuss each other’s life goals and dreams
- Find common ground and similarities in life goals
- Formulate a realistic and achievable shared vision and mission
- Create a plan and strategy to achieve the shared vision and mission
3. Facing Challenges with Love and Determination
Married life is not always smooth. There will be ups and downs and various trials that must be faced. Everlasting love is love that can go through various trials and obstacles together.
Here are some tips for facing challenges with love and determination:
- Strengthen and support each other
- Communicate feelings and needs well
- Find solutions together with a cool head and a calm heart
- Trust and be patient with each other
- Surrender to Allah and ask for His help
4. Maintaining Harmony and Happiness in the Household
A harmonious and happy household is the dream of every couple. To achieve this, it takes effort and commitment from both parties.
5. Strengthening the Spiritual Foundation
A blessed and loving household life cannot be separated from a strong spiritual foundation. Strengthening faith and piety to Allah SWT is the main key to maintaining harmony and happiness in the household.
Here are some ways to strengthen the spiritual foundation in the household:
- Perform congregational prayer
- Read the Quran and study its interpretation together
- Carry out the sunnah worship together
- Attend religious studies and lectures
- Invite children to learn religion
- Pray for the smooth running and happiness of the household
6. Maintaining Trust and Loyalty
Trust and loyalty are two important pillars in building a strong household life. Trusting and being loyal to each other will strengthen the love and affection in marriage.
Here are some tips for maintaining trust and loyalty:
- Be open and honest with each other
- Maintain good and transparent communication
- Respect each other’s boundaries and privacy
- Avoid temptation and infidelity
- Remind and strengthen each other in goodness
7. Being a Good Role Model for Children
Parents are the main role models for children. How husband and wife behave and show love for each other will affect how children view marriage and love relationships in the future.
Here are some tips for being a good role model for children:
- Show love and affection in front of children
- Respect and appreciate each other in front of children
- Work together and hand in hand in taking care of the household
- Teach children about moral and religious values
- Set a good example in behaving and solving problems
8. Establishing Silaturahmi and Expanding Social Network
Maintaining good relations with family, neighbors, and the community can help build a happier and more prosperous household life.
Here are some benefits of establishing silaturahmi and expanding social networks:
- Get social support and assistance
- Make friends and expand connections
- Learn from the experiences and wisdom of others
- Be part of a supportive community
- Create a positive and conducive environment for children
The secret of everlasting love does not come by itself. It takes effort, commitment, and cooperation from both partners to build a blessed and loving household life.
By adhering to the guidance of the Quran and applying the tips above, God willing, the love in marriage will continue to grow and develop until the end of life.
I hope this article is useful for readers who want to build a happy and sustainable household life.***
